What an Idiot Foreigner Shows Us About Xenophobia and Sexism in China

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WARNING: This post contains explicit language. Put the kids to bed first.

This video was being passed around on Twitter a week or two ago. It’s embedded below, but in case you can’t see it or it loads slowly because you’re outside China, it’s a drunk foreigner, apparently married to a Chinese woman, making an idiot of himself. The video title says he’s “beating” his father in law, but no “beating” really occurs, just a little grabbing and shoving as Captain Drunkface is flailing around on the ground. Here’s the video:

Let me get this out of the way first: the guy is clearly a moron, and deserves most of the abuse netizens can heap upon him. But the reason he deserves a bit of abuse isn’t because he’s foreign, or because he’s married to a Chinese girl, it’s because he is a moron. Also, in the interest of full disclosure, I am not operating from a neutral position here, since I’m a foreigner who is engaged to a Chinese woman.

Another disclaimer: I am aware that this kind of stuff exists in all cultures, and the internet is a prime breeding ground for xenophobic misogynists. This, as ever, is a blog about China. I’m not suggesting Americans, or the Dutch, or anyone else, are any better, just suggesting that the phenomenon might be worth looking at in China.

With that said, let’s take a look at some of the comments netizens have posted on the video. I’ve selectively translated ((i.e., these comments are not representative of the whole community commenting on that video, just a part of it. That said, it did not take me much effort to find any of these quotations.)) those that I think connect to xenophobia and/or sexism and tried to categorize them, though many fall into both categories.

Xenophobic Comments

Most of these comments were chosen because they contain the term 洋鬼子, or “foreign devil”, which is probably the most derogatory Mandarin slur for foreigners.

“Worthless foreign devil.”

“The foreign devil should be detained; however, that police officer speaking some English isn’t bad.”

“Not all about foreign devils is good, many people who worship foreign things are just scared.”

“Foreign devils acting wild in China, it all comes from the Manchu period of backwardness and humiliation.”

“Foreign devils, bah!”

“In my life, I will not marry or even like a foreigner. And when I have kids, I will not allow them to marry foreigners.”

“Women who marry foreign devils are truly worthless. Women who marry this kind of guy are even worse.”

“Truly disgusting. When they’re drunk, the true evil in the hearts of foreigners is perfectly revealed.”

“Foreign garbage.” [A lot of people made this comment]

The fact that this video is even popular in the first place is evidence that foreigners are treated differently by many Chinese. After all, drunken idiots being hauled off by the police is something you can see on any street corner in China (or anywhere else in the world). And the fact that everyone feels the need to say “this foreign guy” instead of just “this guy” shows us that there’s a clear interest in keeping him separate from anything “Chinese.” He is the Other.

Fair enough. I must admit, I myself would be relieved if I had some proof this guy wasn’t American, because it’s embarrassing to be associated with his behavior. Furthermore, the situation is complicated by the fact that many commenters feel the man received special treatment because of his race and say he would have been dealt with more swiftly and violently had he been Chinese. We don’t, of course, know anything about the predilections of the police officer in question, so that assertion is impossible to evaluate conclusively, but it is certainly possible. No one would deny that on the whole, foreigners often receive special treatment from Chinese police.

But regardless, there’s a lot of anger directed at the man’s foreignness, rather than at his behavior or at his having received special treatment. The term 洋鬼子, a harsh enough bit of invective that very few Chinese people would say it to a foreigner’s face, is thrown around in these comment sections as though it were the proper term of “foreigner”. It’s a bit like reading comments on a news story about a black criminal that are full of the word “n****r”.

My concern here is not that the Chinese aren’t properly PC, because who cares. What concerns me is what’s behind the language choice, thousands of commenters taking one bad moment in the life of a single foreigner and using it to spread hundred-year-old stereotypes and apply them to the entirety of the non-Chinese world, i.e. around 5/6 of the planet. In using slurs to refer to the foreigner, many people seem to be implying what that one commenter made explicit: there is something explicitly different and evil about foreigners, and they hide it to trick us.

Old Chinese Drawing of a Foreigner

Comments Concerning Chinese Women with Foreigners

Many of these comments are inherently sexist and xenophobic.

“When you marry a foreigner, even your own father will get hurt.”

“How many Chinese girls are happy with foreigners? Chinese men are better.”

“Why would [she] want to marry a foreigner?”

“I don’t really get why so many women like being fucked by foreign guys.”

“In truth, it’s not [just] being obsessed with foreign things. I just don’t get women these days…”

“Our family has a coarse saying: don’t let foreigners fuck good cunts!”

“I once saw a group of Northeasterners beating up two foreigners, the foreigners were drunk and had been catcalling at a Chinese girl. Then three northeasterners came along and beat those foreigners till they were kneeling. One foreigner might have actually been unconscious, he was lying on the ground…”

“A loss of face? Chinese people have already lost all the face there is to lose. And this old guy? How could he marry his daughter to this foreigner? Is avoiding [another] loss of face enough? Just quickly divorce the guy, don’t lose any more face.”

“Don’t let the next generation of Chinese be mixed-race! This is not only tarnishing Chinese families, but it is a humiliation to the great traditions of the Chinese people!”

“Who raised this girl? All of her “benefits” flowing into the “fields” of a foreigner, it would be better to just have a dog instead of this kind of daughter.”

The issues here are complex. The concept of “face” being as important as it is in China, many of the commenters felt this woman had lost face for China by marrying such an idiot. Many more felt marrying foreigners in general was a loss of face, and wondered why she couldn’t just marry a Chinese guy. Love, or the personalities of the man and the woman, never entered into the equation. I didn’t see a single comment wondering what it was she saw in him in the first place, just a lot calling her “worthless” and comparing her unfavorably to a dog for having married a “garbage foreigner” and being someone who “worships foreign things”.

Of course, when a foreign girl offers Chinese men so much as a hug, Chinese men are clamoring over her. It’s not traitorous for Chinese men to drool over, have sex with, or marry foreign women. In fact, it is glorious, a conquest of sorts. But many of these comments imply Chinese women don’t have the same freedoms, even if the foreigner they’re with isn’t a drunken idiot, the fact that he’s a foreigner at all is enough to make them “worthless” in the eyes of their male countrymen.

Yes, I am aware the internet is an mostly-male, sexist place. I’m also aware that taking a stand against sexism and xenophobia isn’t exactly gutsy or cutting edge. But regardless, these comments are real, and judging by the number of people who’ve written things like them, people who actually believe this stuff aren’t rare at all, so I think they’re worth looking at and talking about, at least for a day.

What are your thoughts? (Hint: this is the part where you say I’m overreacting, trying to “force Western values on China”, or make conjectures about my personal life!)

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  1. (sort of)@Charles Liu (and then I will digress into a disjointed rant) Regarding your first statement, when I first went to China, I was blown away by how many people yelled “Ha Lou” at me. My first impression was that “Chinese people yell ‘Ha Lou’ at foreigners. After I had been there for a while, I noticed how many people didn’t yell ‘Ha Lou’ at me, and furthermore how few people even acknowledged my presence. From that I realized that, especially when someone is a minority, people only really notice the most obnoxious people out of any given group, the squeaky wheel getting its grease. Come to think of it, any time I actually have a squeaky wheel, I say “Damn these wheels!”, and not “Damn that front left wheel!” The longer I was in China, the better my Chinese got, and even more so through the people I met through my current girlfriend (I don’t mean to reinforce the “bad girl” stereotype, but she is the first Chinese girlfriend I had that wouldn’t be caught dead in a foreign bar), the more “normal” Chinese people I met.
    That being said, there is something weird about Chinese people that speak English well. I don’t know how many times I have been to an English corner and about 75% of the people there can read and English very well but couldn’t speak it to their lives, 20% are bored and go there to meet people and maybe get some English out of it, 4.9% are a mix of children forced by their parents to be there, Chinese who have lived abroad, and smiling hillbillies. The remaining.1% are complete morons that for some reason speak English very well, dominate the conversation, and either talk about how wonderful they are or else spout complete gibberish (in fluent English, of course). I blame Li Yang’s Crazy English for this (picture a guy with a crowd of more than a thousand English students surrounding him encouraging them by yelling “I don’t care if I lose face! I want to practice my English!”)
    Chinese people, I assume, will also see tens to thousands of foreigners acting completely normal. Said foreigners probably (at most) cause the Chinese people to think “Oh, a foreigner.” However, when they see an idiot, the idiot will leave a longer-lasting impression. I actually read The Autobiography of Malcolm X while I was in China, and accredit a great deal my opinions about being a foreigner in China to this book.
    In response to other comments, the issue about how Chinese view mixed-race couples was very interesting to me while I was there. I’ve had people, mostly hillbillies, yell at the girl, I’ve had Chinese people seemingly offended by me not having a Chinese girlfriend (i.e. “What they’re not good enough for you?”), most interestingly I’ve had at least two different Chinese girlfriends tell me that when they see a Chinese man with a white girlfriend it makes them feel sick to their stomachs. 因人而异. The only conclusion I made regarding this issue is that Chinese rednecks are more likely to make ignorant statements. There are parts of America I would hesitate to go to with my girlfriend.
    My conclusion from all of this is that people are the same everywhere, and that foreigners in China probably have a situation most similar to that of the American Indian in America. Most people haven’t met any, everyone has stereotypes based on movies and TV (either barbarians or as possessing some kind of mystical elevated status), and when Joe America meets an Indian the probability of an ignorant or weird question being asked increases dramatically.
    Dang it, I wrote too much. I would never read a post this long…

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  2. C.Custer,

    I started to translate this article since the first time I saw it, which was actually way before you mentioned you’re going to translate it in ChinaGeeks’ Chinese version. I don’t hide the intention to attract traffic to my blog (which blog writer doesn’t want more clicks) but I have no plan to redirect traffic from here to mine. I was thinking to introduce this article to Chinese readers and bring them into the discussion.

    Anyway I must say sorry for not letting you know before translating. I had took the article off and will submit it to the ChinaGeeks Chinese version. Let me know if it’s ok to publish there.

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  3. @h
    Comparing a blog to Fox News is a pretty weak comparison. Fox News obviously doesn’t do real journalism as they should, a blog however however remains a medium where people express their personal opinions.

    Furthermore I don’t think it’s just about the comments. The comments only work in a certain context. Namely the one where people have actually been exposed to racism. But just as some earlier comments stated, no-one says all Chinese people are racists. That still doesn’t make the netizens’ comments right.
    Luckily not all foreigners behave like that dude.

    Oh yeah and I don’t think just because you are asian/asian-american you have a greater legitimacy in Chinese history. If you have greater knowledge, then yes, otherwise no. Last time I checked, history didn’t have a nationality.

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  4. @h:

    I love your comment that “no matter how many books one has read about white oppression in the US i’d still say that a black person has more legitimacy on the issue, and the same goes for east asian studies and being asian (or asian-american for that matter).”

    According to this logic, the only people who can talk about racism in China are (non-ethnically Asian) foreigners who have lived there. So why are you posting?

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  5. H:

    If and when you can find me equally as many comments that say things like, “Guys, it’s just one guy acting like an idiot, no need to get all worked up.” then I’ll consider myself as having been corrected.

    Keep in mind that this is not an isolated incident and I doubt you’d have much trouble finding similar comments among other, similar topics.

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  6. Just watched the video. That guy has a serious drinking problem. I was a heavy drinker my first year in China, but I can’t even conceive being that drunk in broad daylight. Someone needs to either human flesh search engine him and put him into treatment or else send him to Kunming and let the Cheng Guan cure him the old fashioned way.

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  7. I’m wouldnt think this video had become popular because the guy was foreign so much as it was because of the grandiose display of drunkeness. Finding drunken idiots being hualed off to jail isnt as common as all that. This kind of thing isnt taking place on just any street corner, and so when it does happen its something to behold, and laugh and shake your head at. The fact that he is foreign just makes it all the more so.
    Sure finding a drunken Chinaman or drunken yang gui zi making ass isnt very difficult, but finding one that puts on such a glorious display as this is pretty rare.

    As for keeping him seperated by refering to him as “the foreign guy” instead of simply “the guy”, I think its more innocent than its made out to be here. If this was a video about a foreign guy saving a Chinese child from being hit by a car he would still be identified as “the foreign guy… who saved a child form being hit by a car.”
    Have anyone ever refered to somebody by their ethnicity before? Ex. “John who?” “You know John, ‘the black guy’ who sits next to ‘Korean Bill’ (because there are two Bills :P).”
    In this case he is identified as “the foreign guy” because, like it or not, thats just what he is.

    Also personally I dont see 洋鬼子 as being comparable to n****r. I mean we typically wont even say or write the latter without censoring it, whereas someone calling you “a devil” is pretty mild as far as insults go.

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  8. FYI:

    I was looking for comments on the original website that say something along the lines of “people are people, it doesn’t matter that he is foreign.” I’m sad to report that it took me through 13 pages of drivel to find this one:
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    2010-04-20 09:47:32 pengrz (山东济南):

    老外也是人,,素质有高也有低。只是我们把所有的老外都看高了!

    Rough translation: Whities are people too,,there are high quality and low quality people.It’s just that we think all whities are high quality.

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  9. I don’t really have anything to add to the topic. It’s pretty much well-known to anyone who’s spent more than day in China. I could list my own experiences with having a Chinese girlfriend in the past, etc etc, but it’d be almost like plagiarism. What I am wondering is: What ever happened to the drunk guy after that? If I were him, and I wasn’t thrown in jail…I’d apologize profusely to the nice cop, pay my fine, apologize even more profusely to the father-in-law, apologize even more profusely to my wife, and then buy some plane tickets and never look back. Then, when I got home, I’d look into psychotherapy for some way to never, ever be able to remember what happened.

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  10. What this video needs is a laugh track and some sound effects from America’s funniest videos.

    I think it would be a mistake to judge the sentiments of the chinese people by video comments. Just imagine if the rest of the world judge america by comments made on youtube by american accounts. Spend any amount of time reading these comments and you’ll lose faith in the goodness of people in a hurry.

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  11. I think the problem is that most foreign men married to Chinese women doesn’t care about the Chinese culture or the language for that matter. Many Chinese get the idea that Foreigners think that Chinese culture and language is backwarded when it is not. I recall that I have some argument with some guy running a blog over the definition of ‘losing face’ and he essentially shut me out from his blog. Other foreigners joked China wants to get rid of alphabet terms like NBA and other stuff. Unfortunately, the few foreigners who tries to understand Chinese cultures and language are the ones who will face the critism over most of the foreign men who does not.

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  12. @ pugster: FYI, that thing about alphabet letters is true. The gov’t just banned the use of English acronyms like “NBA” on TV, TV presenters are now supposed to use the full Chinese names for these things. Not sure if anyone is actually doing it or not, but it’s definitely a real thing, not just something foreigners are joking about.

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  13. @ Daniel

    “When I was living in Chengdu with my Chinese girlfriend (now wife) we were on a bus and a 20 something year old girl was making comments like the ones you have translated overly loudly to the girl next to her (the whole bus could obviously hear her and all turned around to look at us). We had to stand there for ages listening to it and couldn’t get angry or do anything or it would just validate what she was saying.”

    I was on a public transportation light rail a few years back and there was a very drunk, older, white male shouting about how ‘niggers’ and ‘spics’ were taking over the nation and there was nothing good about them.

    I was with my Vietnamese girlfriend we both felt extremely uncomfortable. We just got out of a date and this man is yelling obscenities. I am a white male and I went through most of my school life being a minority. I know what it feels like to be singled out because you look different.

    At the next stop the drunk man and some other men he offended got out to teach the drunk man a lesson. Why you did not go over and slap that big mouth bitch, I have no idea. Why would you let your girlfriend to be subjugated to this kind of hostility? You could at least spoken up and defended your girlfriend verbally. Verbal arguments are common in China. Did you ever think you validated what she said because you did not stand up to her?

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  14. @h
    This is really neither here nor there, but black people still face discrimination in Western countries; China hasn’t been the subject of Western humilation for decades. I think the particular “Eastern” perspective you’re talking about adds a lot of emphasis to events that happened a long time ago.

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  15. Lossofmind:

    The difference between what you described is equivalent to the difference between calling someone Korean Bill and Gook Bill. Which one is more appropriate?

    And as Custer pointed out in the original post, 洋鬼子 is something that is usually not even said to a foreigner’s face because of its severity. In addition, I wonder whether the word is not so severe as you say, or if maybe the Chinese language simply has a dearth of vividly insulting language. It seems more likely that you’re making the linguistic mistake of trying to translate something into English and expecting it to carry the same connotation. Similarly, if you translate the German word Scheisse into English, it means shit, but in German, it’s more like damn.

    pug_ster:

    Personally, and in my experience, it’s not so much that foreigners think the Chinese language and culture is backward and therefore don’t study it, it’s more to do with laziness or a perception that Asian languages in general are somehow beyond the comprehension of those who are not Asian.

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  16. Josh, what I described was the similarity between calling someone “the foreign guy” and “Korean Bill” (or the “the Korean guy”), not “yang gui zi” and “Korean Bill”.

    And that was with regards to where the author wrote:

    And the fact that everyone feels the need to say “this foreign guy” instead of just “this guy” shows us that there’s a clear interest in keeping him separate from anything “Chinese.”

    As for 洋鬼子, yes, they are using it as an insult, but Chinese certainly has much more colorful and hurtful insults being thrown around than this. Also, I personally have witnessed it being used in a jokingly affectionate manner, almost like Yankee or Canuck. I’ve yet to hear n****r used in that way.

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  17. You’ve never heard the n-word used in a jokingly affectionate manner? Have you watched TV, movies, visited the US, or talked to a black person any time in the last thirty years? Because that happens all the time. (See this, etc.)

    Of course China has more “colorful” insults, but are there any more serious slurs about foreigners? If there are, I don’t know of them.

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  18. No, I havent heard a non-black person use the term toward a black person in this way. Nor have I personally called a black person a n****r in a jokingly affectionate way. Have you?

    There arent all that many foreigner specific insults as far as I know. Although you can simply prefix “foreign” to any derogatory word and get one. Foreign devil is probably the most common, but terms like foreign dog and foreign garbage I would consider more hateful. Calling someone a foreign devil is like calling them a rascal.

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  19. You’ve never heard a white person jokingly say “n*gga” in the US, or heard it used in a jokingly-affectionate way? You obviously don’t hang out with many young people. Granted, I have an unfair advantage there because of my job, but I hear this happen literally every day. But it’s not really a relevant comparison anyway. What we’re talking about is Chinese people talking among themselves about a white person, not Chinese people speaking face to face with some white guy they’re already friends with and can joke with. The contextual difference is hugely important.

    Similarly, I don’t think many people — Chinese or foreign — would agree that 洋鬼子 is as innocent as “rascal”. There certainly are contexts when it means that, sure, and I don’t doubt that you and your friends have a close enough relationship that you can joke around like this, just as Americans joke around with black friends they’re close with using the n word sometimes. But “friends joking with friends” is not the context that’s happening here, at all.

    Also, just out of curiosity, what is your gravatar?

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  20. Humor the guy coming late to the thread, but… was this guy at a wedding party drinking the local hooch – or a jerk that was thrown out of bar? Have a feeling there is some context that has been left out of this one…

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  21. Oh this video made me cringe! When we are abroad we represent the countries we come from, I think his behaviour is unacceptable in any society, just because it is more frequent in the UK (where I’m from) certainly does not make it okay. Also, if ANYONE acted the same way to a police officer over here he would swiftly be arrested and not shown the patience that this laowai was (and IMO did not deserve, I think this shows more about the lenience of this particular police officer than the whole Chinese police force).

    When we criticize people, its safe to say that we pick out any obvious features, if I was talking about this guy I’d probably say what a drunk OLD moron. Before realising how ageist that sounds. If he was from the south of China, northerners would be saying.. What a southern moron! We are all equally as susceptible to the odd prejudice thought running through our brain. (I am in no way justifying such thoughts and if you ever have one you should scorn yourself!).

    As C. Custer pointed out, there may be underlying issues in China that run deeper than people calling him a “foreign devil”, such as a prejudice of people married/dating foreigners etc. Unfortunately they exist in every culture in every society. Interesting article and obviously got people talking, but I don’t think we’re going to get anywhere with fixing the racism problem any time soon, especially with this guy around. (Did make me chuckle at the start though, before an overwhelming feeling of embarrassment for every foreigner in China).

    P.s. @ C. Custer. He sounded pretty American to me, obviously a British person wouldn’t act in such a way. We at least have the decency to wait till after dark 😉

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  22. as an Chinese expat I’m familiar with both culture and mentalities of both eastern and western. though it’s questionable about the claimed ‘xenophobia’ in the article’, i understand fully where you come from, especially after reading so many abusive netizens’ comments.
    But to put your mind at ease, can you imagine a reverse situation: a drunken Chinese guy behaved the same way as the guy did in the video clip in UK or America, what is going to happen to this supposed Chinese guy?…can he scream racism or xenophobia? most likely he doesn’t even have voice …
    Chinese in general still have the colonic mentality that viewing foreigners higher than their own people. For those of you stay in China long should agree with me on this. I know this because I married a British Husband, it’s upset me the most whenever he get better treatment than me from my own people. Also this is obvious in the video clip, if it was a Chinese man, the treatment would be a guaranteed violent, hash one, possible imprisonment or fine would be followed.
    As regard to the Netizen language abuse, I’m recently a victim on Chinese social net, Kaixin001.net too. The profanity or curse language I received forced me to abandon my site. The only sin I did (as result of this flood of abuse) was to openly challenge a man from Shanghai for posting some pictures with disparaging language about a flood of people who are from outside Shanghai coming to see the Expo. from his point of view anyone who is not Shanghai citizen should be censored or selected that if you have the high quality or not, then decide that if you can come to Shanghai to see the Expo….
    When i told him that it’s his language should have been censored, and his discrimination infected mind should be checked … So I get the abuse.
    Under the harmonious surface, Chinese society is blighted with problems.

    it’s absolutely true that sexism is stark reality in China-every where,too rampant to mention actually! but,I don’t agree on xenophobic.

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  23. Recently, the rise of Netizen and Netizen power in China intrigue me a great deal. It seems that the increased Netizen power even has influenced so much that cause the government to concern.

    Have anybody discussed about this topic yet? I would like to hear more!

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  24. I am basically in 99% agreement with the contents of this article. Although, as correctly stated by C. Custer, this is only an isolated incidence that cannot represent a broad section of society accurately.

    On the other hand, the fact that one such simple case could evoke such a plethora of vitriole clearly demonstrates that Chinese society is just like any other society with respect to the existence of racism.

    The scariest part of this whole issue is that so many Chinese, at least when in discussion with foreigners, truly believe (or at least claim with great conviction) that there is no racism in China. It is this phenomenon that often severly hampers any open-minded or rational discussion about real issues in China between foreigners and Chinese. Some Chinese often dismiss any arguments or evidence put forward by foreigners who bring up sensitive topics about China by simply saying, “You don’t understand because you’re not Chinese”. In fact, it would be more effective for such individuals to explain their viewpoint with facts and logic rather than dismissing outright any non-Chinese person’s viewpoints about Chinese culture.

    In order to avoid any misuderstandings, let me just add that there are many, many open-minded Chinese friends and strangers that I have talked to over my 13 years of living in China that will admit that people are more or less the same all over the world.

    Still, there are also many Chinese who put artificial mental barriers and create pseudo-scientific “uniqueness theories” to avoid open discussion and debate with people from other countries about many aspects of their culture. Of course, such people exist in every country. The difference is that most people around the world (including many Chinese, I might add) are willing to admit that racism exists in every society.

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  25. Re: Lossofmind’s comment

    Also personally I dont see 洋鬼子 as being comparable to n****r. I mean we typically wont even say or write the latter without censoring it, whereas someone calling you “a devil” is pretty mild as far as insults go.

    If you understand the Chinese language to any reasonable extent, then you would know that there is virtually nothing more pejorative, insulting, and dehumanising than 洋鬼子. The only other word I could think of that might be worse is 鬼佬 which combines the ‘devil(ghost)鬼’ character with a derogatory term for man 佬, thus adding an extra layer of insult or disdain.

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  26. They are ILLEGAL immigrants who violated neigbouring borders abusing the host countries infrastucture after running their own countries into the ground. What is wrong with you if you take action against a robber in your house? ROBOPHOBIA?! If someone abuses your child? PHEDOPHOBIA. If your government is unable to rectify a cituation the citizens must be mentaly ill when they try to protect themselves. They then have a ‘phobia’ (sic) talk about passing the buck. . .

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  27. Chinese are very worried cause they are scared of foreigners also there women love to have sex and service foreign men cause chinese man is terrible for lovemaking and barren emotional partner.chinese boring foreign men bigger equipment more fun.

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  28. “It’s not traitorous for Chinese men to drool over, have sex with, or marry foreign women. In fact, it is glorious, a conquest of sorts.”

    A miracle, some might say.

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  29. I see that people are just rethinking their relationship with foreigners. I have to point out that there the concept of equally positioning each other barely applies in Chinese culture ( as far as I know) It is either “I’m better than you” or “you’re better than me”. As they get better understanding of foreigners, they are happy, after suffering from all the jealousy, to find themselves better then a white person. I can see that people will start to question the superiority and privilege of being white.

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  30. I am a white woman who was with a Chinese-American man for seven years. I wanted us to get married, but whenever I mentioned it he got really angry. It turned out his mother hated my guts so badly that she was giving him hell over me. And in turn he got angry at me for it.She never called me my name, only Gwai-Lo, even to my face. I put up with it with a smile and never complained. Apparently I was only with him for “his money”, even though I had and still have a higher income than him, as well as my own home and transportation. And yes, I am attractive and athletic (I play tennis every weekend), and the old hag managed to put in his head that I was “too fat”. I lost the weight she wanted but it was still not enough. Never did he offer to pay me a meal or buy me jewelery, and never did I ask. Instead I got him watches and wallets for his birthdays and Christmas. He was the center of my universe and I was proud of it.

    I wanted to have this man’s babies. I wanted to cook his meals and make him happy and proud. God, was I delusional.

    There are a million and one stories I could tell about my experiences with this family. Let’s just say that after I spent my youth, money and resources loving this man, and always ALWAYS staying submissive and loyal to him, his mother forced him to leave me, two years ago. She single-handedly turned me into a White Nationalist.

    I will hate this vermin for the rest of my days. I hope the US eventually nukes that filth out of existence before they become more of a problem. And yes, it makes me sick that President Obama is chums with such filth.

    Don’t kid yourselves. They hate us, it’s the only emotion they can feel. They will never ever be our friends. In college, when I met my ex, I believed we could make the world a little better by showing we can love each other despite having eyes of different shapes. But no. They have no concept of love. They are automatons obsessed with “work” and “profits” and “keeping face”. It’s all about pretending to be rich and being as emotionally dead as possible on the inside.

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  31. @Mrs. B: What a boring story. You’re full of anger, but the situation is completely your own fault. You allowed them to abuse you, no idea why, but your conclusions are bogus. One case like this doesn’t mean all the rest of 1.3 billion Chinese are like them. And if we think with your mindset, then we could say, that white or US women are clingy stupid broads, who throw everything to their men and are fine with being abused and exploited. Would that make sense?

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